“ Human relationships and the effect of relationships on relationships are the building blocks of healthy development ”
– National Research Council, 2000
Any relationship needs time, effort , patience, love , care , trust and respect to grow to bloom and to stay just like a growing plant or a delicate flower needs optimum sunlight, fresh air or oxygen, right quantity of water and sometimes extra fertilizers to bloom to its potential. They also need to be protected and preserved from the insects, rodents or diseases. In a similar sense, relationships need to be away from evils of Ego, jealousy, hatred or hypocrisy.
It’s often quoted by the wise , ” any great relationship is about appreciating similarities and respecting differences”
This might be very relatable to any relationship you see today.
It this 21st century of rapidly advancing technologies and advancements, somewhere in the race towards establishments, relationships have taken a back seat. It is no surprise to say that today the dynamics or domains of relationships, be it family or friendships or couples have changed drastically. Some have played an important role in individual growth and self realization, however some have also changed the entire meaning of caring for relationships or rather priority lists have undergone a change of order.
If we were to see the vitality of harbouring relationships and to still hold them well while treading the path of individual success, we would then be defining a new harmonious mix of personal growth, empathy with others and taking up individual and social responsibility. The reason, this point comes to my mind is because this needs a little more attention, a little more thought and a little more of social action.
Going back in times when we were just entering the new era of technologies springing up and online strategies starting up, there was still some strong connect seen among people, there was still a feeling on oneness in terms of priorities or milestones.
As we started switching from a world of handwritten letters, telephone booths, floppy disks, black and white television and more to a world of e mails, messages, easy access phones, USB drives and colour televisions, we entered a phase of discovery of new things which made our lives easier and efficient.
However we must still understand that even today caring and nurturing relationships is of extreme importance and especially now more than before.
Even today, however successful one may be or might become by the grace of Almighty God, still the food prepared by mothers’ tastes a different level of satisfaction because it holds within it the love and affection of a mother than a fast food pic, although today it might be an inevitable need, still the advices of a father may outweigh suggestions on the net because they hold in real experiences and care from the bottom of the heart. The virtual video games might be extensively thrilling and competitive for young minds today but still playing with siblings and friends outdoor games would help develop team spirit, empathy and give long lasting support bonds to each other.
It’s important we realise that personal growth and busy schedules doesnt offer us the right to give bad comments to the food prepared by our mothers or it leave it there on the table untouched while leaving for work or schools, after she woke up two hours earlier than you to make that food so that her children dont go out empty stomach.
Its wiser to tell her what you would like to eat instead of behaving in a way that tears her heart each time you scorn her hardwork. Surely she would be more than happy to prepare that for you.
It’s highly disrespectful to shun your fathers suggestions in a hurtful manner, instead it’s better to discuss with him and convince him for your new ideas , infact today discuss it with both your parents. Remember he stood by you when you couldnt even say ABC or count 1,2,3.
Take time out to play and engage is entertaining and learning activities with your siblings and friends, because together you learn lot more, you build fruitful relationships for life and you can help each other when required.
Think hard- It’s time to treasure your relationships along with your possessions.
There is an exponential increase in stress levels in people which in turn raise risks of obesity, diabetes mellitus, hypertension, stroke to name a few.
There is a shoot up on number of cases of depression, anxiety, worry, low self esteem, insecurities today on global grounds – the reason being, believe it or not, the inability to open up to someone trust worthy about problems, while trying to seek correct or reasonable solutions. One of the most effective ways to deal with these issues are building strong, honest and reliable relationships, And this needs time , so give time to your relationships.
” Relationships are like muscle tissue, the more they are engaged, the more stronger and valuable they get” – by Ted Rubin
Remember being busy is not a thing of pride, instead being productive and managing everything around is probably the way of life.