Romanticizing your life and yourself is so integral to one’s self development but it’s not appreciated enough. To fall in love with one’s self is not narcissism but growth. From the day you’re born, you’re taught to strive to be the best that you can be. Oftentimes, that leads to self hatred and causes you to be too self critical. Now here’s why you need to fall in love with yourself before you venture into a relationship.

Livia Fălcaru To become better is to believe that you are limitless and that your potential is never-ending. To no longer wait for your fears to pass and face them head on. To no longer cower to “what ifs” and negative thoughts your brain uses to stay safe. You do not need to live in a constant state of flight or fight because we’re all born warriors.

To fall in love with yourself is to rise from your own ashes that you’ve been burning for so long. You don’t need to burn anymore. You need to burn your self criticism. Everyone has fought themselves for so long in order to fit in and that is so unfortunate. We need to stop succumbing to negative notions ingrained in our minds.

Livia Fălcaru

When you don’t love yourself, your roots are sturdy but your petals keep falling off. You are in a constant state of autumn, shedding but never being reborn. Losing yourself and never truly blooming. Do not sit down and wait to be saved. Once you become a damsel of distress, you attract abusers. When you do not love yourself, you lack the necessary self worth that establishes boundaries. Thus, making you more vulnerable. You kill your own spring and the cycle of self hate, never ends.

To love yourself is to grow. You will bloom and stay true to yourself. You will fill vapid gardens with life. A beautiful scent of joy and growth. This is all possible once you stop waiting to be saved and save yourself. A relationship isn’t going to fix your perception of yourself. Only you can. A relationship in a state of low self worth will burn your petals off. Thus, you need to fall in love with yourself first.